Why Women Prefer Taller Men
Tall, Dark and Handsome: Why Women Really Prefer It
Tall, dark and handsome – three words that sum up the “perfect man” for the vast majority of women.
And for most men, that idea has been blindly accepted. If you’re not tall, dark and handsome, you’re probably not dating supermodels… that’s just how it works. It’s no secret most men would do anything to fit into these three adjectives. Because by doing so, they dramatically increase their chances of attracting members of the opposite sex.
But as human beings, we shouldn’t be satisfied with “that’s the way it is.” No, we should want to know why things are. Because when we know why something happens, we can figure out what we can do to better our own position.
No, we can’t all be tall, dark and handsome – that’s the reality. But through understanding why women are attracted to tall men, we begin to understand what attraction actually is – something that’ll definitely help you in your own social life.
So without further ado, let’s get started…
Unlocking the Natural World
In 1859, a man named Charles Darwin published a remarkable book, On the Origin of Species.
This book took a bold stance: it claimed that human beings—and all lifeforms on the planet—could come about through natural means. In other words, instead of everything “appearing” one day on the Earth, over billions of years, life evolved.
And thus the theory of evolution was born.
Now, at the time of its publication, On the Origin of Species was incredibly controversial (it still is, actually). But as time went by, people started to see that the theory of evolution seemed to just make sense.
It perfectly explained why animals behaved in certain ways – why bees are always found next to flower patches, why tropical frogs had exotic and colorful skin… the theory of evolution was the long searched for key to the door of nature.
The theory of evolution explains why all lifeforms on planet Earth do what they do – including humans. In order to understand why women prefer tall men, therefore, a basic understanding of evolution is required.
I’m sure you’ve heard this phrase, “Survival of the Fittest” before.
Although this doesn’t exactly explain the theory of evolution, it does provide a good starting point. Here’s the key to the theory:
All of life has one goal: to create more of itself.
As human beings, we’re genetically programmed to produce as much offspring as physically possible. Every part of our bodies is designed to help us survive and reproduce.
But how did it get that way? How did we become life producing machines?
In two words, genetic mutation.
When lifeforms reproduce, a genetic copy is created. This genetic copy contains DNA from both the “mother” and “father” of the new life form. However, this process isn’t perfect. Occasionally, as the DNA gets copied, a mistake—or mutation—is made.
I’m sure you’ve heard of people with six toes on their right foot or a mental illness at birth. This is caused by a genetic mutation. But the thing is, not all mutations are harmful. No, someone may be born with a mutation that, for some reason, enables them to jump higher and run faster than their parents.
In nature, the key goal is survival. And when two parents combine DNA to reproduce, their DNA survives for another generation, thereby accomplishing this goal spectacularly. Life forms are attracted to other life forms who are healthy and have a good chance at survival. Naturally, animals compete to prove their tenacity. Then, the top “survivor” of a group is the first choice for reproduction. This ensures the genes of the top survivor continue on for another generation.
So let’s get back to mutations. Let’s say two lions reproduce. Their DNA is combined together and cloned, but during this process, a mutation occurs. The new lion cub is born with a limp. The lion cub can’t run nearly as quickly as the other lions.
So what happens when this lion needs to get food? The lion is unable to run quick enough, so is unable to catch food. As a result, the lion will likely die from starvation.
It’s harsh, but that’s nature.
When that lion dies, the genetic mutation that caused the limp dies with it. Since that lion never got a chance to reproduce, the chance of that mutation occurring again plummets.
Now, what if the same lion was born with a positive genetic mutation? Say instead of being born with a limp, the lion was born with mutated leg muscles that allowed it to run much faster than the other lions.
When it comes time to hunt for food, this lion easily catches its prey. It’s a “top survivor.” When it reproduces, its genes are shared with its offspring. Its offspring will then be another “top survivor,” which will then reproduce.
Over the course of thousands of years, all the lions will be born with this genetic mutation. This is because all the lions who could run faster survived and reproduced, while all the slower lions eventually died off.
And just like that, lions became better equipped for survival.
What This Means
Nice science lesson, I know. But what does it mean? What does this have to do with social interactions between men and women?
It has everything to do with it! It perfectly explains why women prefer tall men.
Lets go back in time 200,000 years, when the human race was in its infancy. Although modern homo sapiens were equipped with much more efficient brains than our cousins homo neanderthalensis, we were still pressed to survive. Evolution was working at full force, allowing us to continue to flourish even in the face of incredible challenges.
And just like other forms of life, survival was our main goal. Natural selection—survival of the fittest—was what led our reproduction cycle. Women looked for one thing in a man: the ability to survive and help offspring survive.
These were not easy times for the human race. Wild animals, the elements, fights between other human tribes – only the fittest did survive.
The women were charged with the hefty responsibility of choosing mates that were strong and capable of survival. Not only that, but capable of helping offspring survive as well.
It’s not really a secret… taller men are, in general, stronger and better suited to survival than shorter men. Obviously, there are exceptions. But early females weren’t looking for exceptions. No, they were looking for the best possible chance of survival.
So height became a huge determining factor when deciding a mate. Since taller men generally outlived shorter men, women became genetically programmed to search for taller mates.
This genetic programming is still in action today.
Concept in Action
A tall, handsome man walks into a bar. As he walks to the counter, you see the eyes of all the ladies in attendance turn and stare. A tall, good looking man can create quite the stir in public places.
This is directly related to the evolutionary concepts we just got finished talking about.
Look at top male public figures. Are they short and stocky men? No! They’re tall, muscular men who—if we went 200,000 years back—would have the best chance of survival in the wild.
Women don’t just like tall men because they’re tall. No, they like taller men because they’re genetically programmed to do so. After years and years of natural selection, genetic programming has caused women to seek tall and strong mates.
But wait a minute, why would that matter anymore? Now we have modern medicine. We’re a much more civilized society. In first world countries especially, being tall and strong doesn’t necessarily increase your odds at survival. So why do women still go after taller men?
Well, for 200,000 years, humans did need strength and height to survive. In fact, it’s really only in the past century or two we’ve been able to overcome this basic need. Just think of how far we’ve advanced in the past 50 years. We’ve cured terminal illnesses and developed complex procedures that allow survival when, in nature, death would’ve been the only possible outcome.
But evolution works on a much longer timescale. We’re not going to erase 200,000 years of genetic programming within 200 years. No, it’s going to take a much longer time.
Although we humans have developed considerably—both emotionally and technologically—we’re still, at our cores, driven by genetic instincts. Instincts that come from our species fighting for survival in the world.
Can it be Overcome?
Now, this article is not meant to create an outcry. It’s designed to show people why women go after tall men.
So what about short men? Are they doomed to social failure? Is it impossible for a short man to be as socially in demand as a tall man?
Great news – no.
Although genetic programming still exists, we humans are amazing creatures. We can—using our conscious minds—override genetic programming (which is what makes us humans). Women understand perfectly that height and strength are not the only factors that contribute to survival in this modern era. In fact, strength and height have little, if anything, to do with survival.
Social standing and financial security each play huge roles in survival. So women know to look for these factors as well as genetic programming blueprints. And that’s why you’ll see a short man with super models. It’s not because of his height or strength – it’s because he excels in other areas. Maybe he’s a millionaire, maybe he’s well respected in his community… the list goes on and on.
But the genetic programming is still there. It won’t be going away for quite some time. So that’s why women, in general, prefer taller men to shorter men. And it’s why shorter men who have incredible social lives are the exception.
In nature, everything happens for a reason. And that reason is simple: life’s main goal is to create more life – to survive and flourish.
So now you know. Next time you see a gorgeous girl chatting with a tall man, you’ll know exactly why that’s happening. But more importantly, you’ll understand why she’s talking to him. You’ll realize that it’s not really because he’s tall – it’s because in the past, tall men had a better chance at survival. And since this went on for 200,000 years, that fact is deeply engrained in female DNA.
If you’re a short man, therefore, instead of worrying about your height, answer this need to survive through other means – financial, social, etc. By doing so, you overcome the height obstacle and allow yourself to gain social success through other means.